Ask yourself this: When do you truly experience happiness? A question I have been plundering about for years. Reading self-help books and looking at videos that try to explain how to be happy. It helps to a certain degree. In the end, you are responsible for your happiness. Dig deep to find what amuses you. Dig deep to comprehend what makes you laugh. What makes you feel loved and what you like to do to show love.
I try to evaluate the times I have been thrilled and to figure out what caused it. We are all unique individuals. But we also share some typical recipes for feeling good. The standard phrase is to have a steady sleep routine, exercise and be around positive people. To some degree, its accurate and reasonable. What happens when you do all this, and you still don’t get that good feeling?
Try to find a moment in your memory where you were thrilled. Think hard, and it has to be real. What caused it? How was your day until you felt happy? Who was involved? What did you do at that exact moment?
When you have sorted this out maybe it will provide what you need to get more of that feeling.
I have set myself a goal to write one blog post each week. Hopefully it will contribute to cleanse my thoughts, as well as my feelings. I have learned during my private studies of self-improvement that this can help my well being.
Recent weeks I have celebrated Christmas and spent time with people close to me. I’m very grateful for all the excellent food and for the time spent with my family.
Gratitude is essential, and I would like to present three points to what I am grateful for:
- Health. Stay healthy! Not just physically but also mentally. My goal is 30 minutes of exercise each day and 5-15 minutes of self-made meditation. By self-made, I mean that it doesn’t need to be so ceremonial. Find your own time and space when you see fit. I’m 33 years old, and I have learned that life is fragile and coincidental. When you start to observe around you, you will notice much distress around health: knee problems, coughing, sadness, depression, MS. The list goes on. My point is that it can happen at any given second. Value your time and appreciate the time of not hurting both emotionally and physically. When you start to get this perspective into your consciousness, it enhances a positive mindset.
- Solitude. Solitude is the state or situation of being alone. Get comfortable with being alone. Life today is packed with commitments and time thieves. Make an effort to create time for yourself. Be with yourself as in taking a walk or just lay down and BE with yourself. Sometimes it can be challenging to find the time and do it. When you do maybe the concept of gratitude will sneak up on you.
- Relations. Right now, I am grateful for my girlfriend and my family. Relationships demands work. I don’t want to come out as a romantic, naive person. I am aware of the sacrifices needed to make good relations. Right now, we are happy! And I’m grateful. We have build trust; it takes work to be honest, loving and thoughtful in everyday life. She makes me feel good and challenges me. Thank you, honey.
The first long text I have written during the seven years of this blog. So be gentle. I hope it makes someone out there a tad more grateful.